How the Loneliness of Single Life Can Draw You Closer to God

You have a refuge in the loving arms of God

The single life is not an easy life.

Though many people may look at singles as those who have the easier portion in life, they may not take into consideration the many problems single people must meet alone.

Single people must take care of their financial needs without the help of their partners. When they grow old, they don’t even have the assurance of having children who will take care of their needs.

But out of all the challenges a single person may go through, I believe loneliness is the most difficult of all.

It’s that part of the day when singles go home to an empty house with no spouse or children to welcome them.

It’s that time of the year when everyone’s spending the holidays with their family while single people must celebrate the occasion alone. It’s that point in time when most of your friends are busy and you couldn’t find a single soul to talk to just when you need it most.

It was Mother Teresa who put it so clearly when she said:

“I am convinced that the greatest of all sorrows is to feel alone, to feel unwanted, deprived of all affection. It consists in not having anyone, in having gotten to the point of forgetting what human contact is, what human love is, what it means to be wanted, to be loved, to have a family.”

I am not saying that single people are always lonely

They are not!

But when such times come, (and they do come!) I would like to urge single people to find consolation in the only One who will always be there for you – God.

Even if you may not see Him or feel Him, talk to Him. Seek His presence in prayer. Cry if you must!

Jesus understands what it’s like to be lonely and to be abandoned by all

Wasn’t He lonely at the cross when all deserted Him? One of His closest friends even betrayed Him. He knows what it’s like to be in that dark night all by yourself.

“Behold, the time is coming, yes, and has now come, that you will be scattered, everyone to his own place, and you will leave me alone. Yet I am not alone, because the Father is with me.” - John 16:32, WEBBE

As Jesus believed that He was with the Father, let us also believe that He is with us. Even in our loneliest days. Especially so in our loneliest times.

God may allow us to feel this kind of loneliness. But He hasn’t allowed any suffering to come upon us if He did not see a greater good coming out of it.

And what is the greater good?

When we draw closer to Him, when we finally realize how much He loves us so, it wouldn’t matter anymore how much loneliness and suffering we’ve been through.

Let your loneliness lead you to God’s loving arms

It is there where your joy could never be taken away from you.

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