How I Try to Overcome My Insecurities as a Single Person
Tips for Battling Insecurities and Embracing Your Journey
Having insecurities as a single person is not a topic that is easy to write about.
I must admit that it is easier to let the world assume that I’m happy all the time and that I have no insecurities whatsoever.
But I think it’s worth discussing something that may affect other people who are also on a similar path in life.
First of all, having insecurities doesn’t mean that one no longer trusts in God. While I would like to hope that faith could be the cure for all of our problems, the truth is that it is not. At least, not in the way we often see it.
When we believe in God, it doesn’t mean that He will automatically take us out of this world and whisk us away to heaven. It also doesn’t mean that we would immediately be immune to all the problems and struggles in life.
Perfection is often a life-long process that would only be complete in heaven. And even for those who are near perfection like the holiest of saints, suffering is never truly gone.
Going back to the topic of dealing with insecurities, we must first separate two things. To struggle with insecurity is different from wallowing in insecurity and allowing it to poison our lives within.
Insecurities will come and go, but we must never let them overpower us.
Here are some of the things I try to do to overcome my insecurities:
1. I listen to the people who believe in me
I’m blessed to have family and friends whom I could talk to. Whenever I feel down, they help me see the positive things in me that I sometimes fail to see.
2. I go back to my journal
I keep I diary, and when I read them again, I realize how much I have already been through. After all the problems and difficulties, I’m still here. And if I could overcome so much then, I could also face the many challenges coming my way.
3. I pray and try to see myself through God’s love for me
When all else fails, there is always God waiting for me. I know that I should have looked to Him in the first place. But whatever may be the situation, know that God loves you and believes in you.
Sometimes I think that He believes in me too much! He believes me more than I believe in myself and so He allows me to experience these struggles.
Here are some of the things I feel I should do more:
1. Start new hobbies
I’m an introvert by nature, and so I rarely go out. My hobbies naturally include indoor ones such as reading and watching Netflix. I do hope that I can start new hobbies that can boost my self-confidence.
2. Develop new skills
It always helps to learn new skills. This is one way to overcome our insecurities, helping us to accomplish more in life. Right now, I’m learning ways to use AI as a tool for my freelance endeavors.
I also love music and have previously had guitar lessons. I think it wouldn’t hurt to explore more on that.
3. Fix my financial condition
One source of insecurity for single people is one’s financial condition. Because we don’t have a family to support or children to send to school, we may live on a minimum budget and forget to save for the future.
I would like to improve on this not only for myself but so that I could be more of help to others, too.
4. Exercise more
Our mood is sometimes affected by our physical condition. And this is especially true for singles who are in the pre-menopausal stage of life.
Having a regular exercise routine can help not only one’s body but also one’s mind and overall disposition. Like me, you can start with at least 15 minutes of exercise on a bike or a treadmill.
Reclaiming our God-given identity
Insecurities can sometimes be magnified to the extent that we forget what we are capable of. It can paralyze us and put us in a loop of negative thoughts.
Let us never forget that God has created us in His own image and likeness. We are capable of great things if we never lose sight of God’s mighty plans for our lives.
Believing in yourself is not selfishness. It is not a bad thing for as long as you attribute all of your positive capacities to God.
"Be who you were made to be and you will set the world on fire" - St. Catherine of Siena
"There's a musical term called crescendo. It means 'louder and louder'. 'Louder and louder' means, on the contrary, the starting point is the smallest. You'll have to sound the smallest now to get louder and louder later... When you feel the smallest, in other words, is when your crescendo begins."
- "Do You Like Brahms?" (Korean Series)
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